Libra season 2019’s tough balancing act
Well, here we are, the Autumnal Equinox and the Sun's shift into Libra. For such a classically temperate archetype, this year's "Libra season" comes packed chalk-full of some rather tough questions to ask ourselves.
The classic themes of Libra are all there in its' ingression chart of this year (which happened 3:50a.m. this morning) - balance within ourselves, balance with others, relating and relationships, fairness, diplomacy, mentally weighing what's on our minds and seeking "conflict" resolution, inside and out.
This year, however, we have some specific, and much more unique variables to weigh on our scales.
For starters, this year's Libra Sun, during its' ingression, points to themes of personal value and self-worth, inviting an interesting consideration and weighing of personal and interpersonal values of a unique sort- Do we know our worth in our relationships? Do we act on it or stand on others' treating us accordingly? Do we value those we're in various relationships with? Do we take anything or anyone for granted? What does it show us about our own values when it comes to that complex yet beautiful life arena of interpersonal relating?
What's more, Libra's ruler, Venus, is forming a powerful and tricky configuration with the Nodes of the Moon, which each have its' current-sign's rulers conjoining them.
All this results in a very serious questioning of, who's relating values & agenda have we been carrying?
The Saturn in Capricorn on the South Node implies there are behavior patterns in our relationships which were formed out of fear (in many cases, inherited fears, which weren't even ours) and are either keeping us from being seen and fully appreciated, and/or create a demand for attention which we either project out onto others, and/or hold for ourselves as a self-interest that may have become unhealthily self-centered.
Many of us feeling this pattern most fully may be realizing you're staying in your relationship patterns for one of those 2 main reasons (whether the pattern is to stick in a relationship that's more hierarchical than fair, to feed your commitment-phobias and keep on running from connections where you can see and be seen by the other, or some other variation).
Meanwhile, the Cancer Moon during the ingression moment, conjunct the North Node, points us towards greater caring, emotional nourishment and the comfort and security needs to belong, sensitizing us to collective opinion around what certain relating "containers"(or lacks thereof) should look and feel like- all the while, challenging Venus (and Mercury) in Libra and potentially wanting to dampen the Libra'esque call for examining our relating patterns and values for the fairness they do or do not contain, and whether or not they encourage or discourage a greater sense of inner balance and an exploration of our own worth and how to live from our values when interacting with others (not always an easy feat), rather than settle for what's comfortable, but less than fair to all.
The invitation is to consider and communicate (Venus & Mercury in the 3rd house), about who feels what, needs what, fears what - even if you're just quietly pondering it to yourself - and to listen and seek to understand others, and know we deserve to be heard in our turn.
By doing so, we are likely to be reminded, that our own feelings and concerns, boundaries and fears, are utterly relatable - as are others'. If nothing else, this is a healing truth to come back to, one that opens the doors to deeper compassion and more authentic relating, and the possibility of further solidifying those connections where a mutual sense of witnessing each other feeds and validates each of the people involved.
In some cases, people might be feeling like, in a way, they have "become their relationships" (or their lone-wolf-ness), and that somehow their worth is tied to either having, or not having, human relating of a certain kind in their life.
This isn't limited to romantic relationships, either. Libra is concerned with all kinds of one-on-one relating, and all of the above could be showing up in your life with a good friend, with a business associate as well as a romantic other. The questions to ask yourself are all the same though- how do I express what I value, to or within those interactions? Is there fairness, listening, on both sides? Can compromises be found that address what each person brings to the table, and is each person willing to seek a middle-ground?
And, perhaps the hardest of all, seeing as the Libra Sun is opposing a Chiron Retrograde in Aries- can you find the courage to tread a new path in relating with others, even/especially when you feel vulnerable? Do you have the courage, to acknowledge the loneliness at the heart of the human condition, and let that be the ironic bridge that connects us in our separateness?
And, if not (or if the other cannot meet you on that bridge- cannot find the courage or self-honesty, and/or is responding with defensiveness, or aggression), can you embrace your alone-ness, and make space in your life, for relating that's more fair to all involved?
I'd imagine many of us might be facing (or considering) changing statuses in our primary relationships this coming month, with themes like these upon us, but whether you're married, single, or anything in between, it's a powerful time to do the soul-searching related to how we view, create and maintain our own worth, and honor the worth of another we're in communion with, in a balance which serves both, equally.
Happy transits, from Nurture Astrology!
P.S.- As always, how exactly these themes show up for you personally, and which areas of your life and personality they'll touch most, is specific to your personal chart's interaction with these themes. For a closer look and some extra support with how all this is showing up for you, and how to make the most of it, please contact me to book a personal reading.
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