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Saturn’s Rx in Sagittarius: the seeking of healthy boundaries

Saturn SagWith Saturn’s beginning of its’ 5-month retrograde in Sagittarius last Friday (March 25th, 2016 EDT), we are each of us exploring our relationships to boundaries- social, and personal, and how the two marry.

With social-activist unrest going on in the world these days (which I wrote about here), let's start with the social and transition it to the personal (you'll see how it's all connected, I promise) :
There is a concept important to get, of people in recovery from any form of oppression, abuse or pain, needing time of healing, away from the group most-responsible in oppressing them, and wanting safe sacred spaces devoid of that group, available to them for those reasons.
It can be an hour, a day, a month or a year, a one-time experience or a regular setup.

Unfortunately,while this stuff is well-explored in some activist and spiritual circles, so much of society doesn't yet have the language or the conscious concept of this practice, and may not realize right away that this is an important part of what they want to create-
they may experience their unconscious boundaries crossed (even by well-meaning people), feel unsafe and angry, and lash out.
It’s understandable, yet it isn’t fair to the well-meaning individuals going in blindly into territory they do not know is off-limits.
By all means, let us support and create safe spaces wherever they're needed- but there is a way to set it up, and draw those boundaries consciously, in a healthy manner and ahead of time.
That does take time and practice to learn to request, set up and uphold. Yet, without boundaries being consciously spoken/requested/clarified, it isn't always easy to tell when we may be crossing over one.

With Saturn's retrograde though Sagittarius, this is something we as a society need to relearn, individually and collectively; redefine and clarify our boundaries, to give the world a chance to respect them better.
Unfortunately, that same concept can also be distorted in defense of ill-intending (and/or ignorant) perpetrators (claiming what they did was ok because they weren't told "No" clearly enough etc.), so methinks we must also teach/learn to ask for clarity in the boundaries of others, ahead of time, and enter others' space with that manner of respect.

It’s challenging on both ends- for the oppressed party to learn to
A. Explore their ideas of boundaries, and clarify them for themselves. (extra-challenging when boundaries were never considered, explored or respected in their past experiences, as is often the case for various abused/oppressed parties).
B. Develop the self-worth necessary to take a stand that their boundaries are important, and seek to enforce and uphold them.
C. Develop enough trust towards the group most-responsible for the previous offenses, to let one’s boundaries be clearly known, and request that they be respected.

And that’s just the set-up of safe spaces and boundaries, and doesn’t even touch on the healing journey one begins once within this safe space (whether it’s just within the psyche, a physical space, mental space or all of the above).

For the other party- the alleys, those belonging to groups some members of which have done wrong  (and, isn’t that all of us too? Unfortunately, there are very few groups of people left, some members of whom have never been the perpetrators of SOME manner of problematic behavior, in some way- Oh, for a world that is otherwise! Let us build a world that is otherwise!!),
the journey holds other challenges- Developing the sensitivity and the practice of asking those we interact with, to clarify their boundaries and inform us of them, so that we may tread upon our path minimizing any harm we may do.

Of course, it is impossible to please everyone, yet there is a difference between seeking to please/appease everyone, and showing respect to the specific person/people we are surrounded by. (Worse-case scenario, is leaving the company of some people, if their boundaries of safety and comfort clash with your own, and seeking new groups of/individual people to connect with, who’s boundaries match yours more naturally).
Pleasing others may in some cases involve crossing our OWN boundaries, and this can be an internalization of harm - and is just stuffing the problem inwards/martyring ourselves for the sake of others. Not a healthy option!
Respecting others, however, is choosing to honor their boundaries while also honoring our own. Not always easy either, but, imo, highly necessary to learn to seek a balance of, especially at this time.

In a world struggling with the concept of boundaries, I hope this Saturn retrograde, and my musings on the subject, help to open up the dialogue.

Happy transits, folks.

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Social injustice, and the road to reform & healing

Black moon lilithFor a good chunk of today(March 24th, 2016), the transiting Moon joined forces (conjoined) with Black-Moon-Lilith, the voice of the wounded, angry feminine, in a sign of Libra, well-known for its' connection with the scales of justice.
For fellow Ontario residents, who's eyes are open, we certainly saw those themes activated today. :-/ And I am certain this was by no means only in Ontario!
In so many ways, the world these days is crying out for greater fairness, and a legal system which we can have faith in to point the moral compass true. (Saturn in Sagittarius)

With Chiron (the wounded healer) conjoining Ceres (the feminine nurturance principle) and south node (old outdated attitudes and traditions) in Pisces (deceptive, emotional, victim/martyr archetype) , it's easier than usual to lose the urge to improve things, heal things and change things for the better (North node in Virgo), when it still seems the past has a painful hold on the very things which wounded us to begin with.

And with Pallas (asteroid of feminine warrior power) in Aquarius (social justice archetype) positively working with this Moon/Lilith combo, the natural response to injustice seems to be social activism and ripple-making- which is thoroughly appropriate.

And yet, lest we turn this into ungrounded action, the growth that must occur- that North Node in Virgo asks for- is steady, consistent effort towards improvement and healing, for those who have been wronged and wounded, as well as that which needs to change socially to dismantle corrupt power dynamics (Pluto in Capricorn) and bring real healing to personal and social levels.

It's easier than usual to slide into dejection, depression or victim/martyr states at this state of affairs in the world... and heightened compassion, its' healthier sister, is certainly vitally needed-
and through compassion, we can come back to what may prove to be most important of all: the steady ground-work for change-agency, starting from within, and the willingness to turn outbursts of activist/social outrage, into lasting workings towards change, and healing.

To borrow a rather popular quote these days- "all men(people) must serve". Serve the change we wish to see, that is. Each in our own way. But serve we must. And serve, we shall. Let our frustrations, and our sadness, breed compassion- and let compassion light the way.
Happy transits, folks.

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The Pisces full moon & its’ effects on me (as well as you?)

Why, do you ask, has this astrologer not been writing about this upcoming full moon before now?! Why, it's because I'm busy wrestling with it more privately, in the quiet caverns of my mind which are filled with echoes on a night like this, of past disappointments and fears, of vulnerabilities and anger, of the deep desire to let go, coupled with the strong desire to hold on and shmoons_by_spontaneouspotato-d5dig6i - safe for reuseake what you hold wildly, until it yields the results it promised you.
 
Why have I not written about this full moon? Because I'm embedded in its' grasp, trying to shake free.
 
Perhaps, that is what people need to hear right now though?! that we are not alone in our grappling with what this full moon reflects from deep within us- the emotional desire for peace- to let go and let God, vs. the Egoic desire to critique and organize and micromanage things into a sense of (impossible, none-existent, yet strangely appealing) perfection.
The answer, of course, is in the balance point- something this astrologer shows is not enough to just know; it's something to practice. Or perhaps, if the Pisces full moon is to be heard- to simply let go, and fall into.
Happy navigating the waters, dear ones. 
 
*Note: the astrological full moon in Pisces isn't actually at full tilt until 2:36p.m. EST on the afternoon of the 29th. Its' effects, however, are already felt, as full moons tend to be.

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How to stay balanced during Virgo season

Strive for balance and progress, not "perfection."

Strive for balance and progress, not "perfection."

With Virgo season increasingly upon us (starting with the Jupiter ingression into Virgo on August 11th, and continuing from there with other players joining the field), my own personal motto right now has been "progress, not perfection".
Why? well, to reap the best that Virgo season has to offer, of course.
As any healthy Virgo-type should be able to tell you,perfection doesn't really exist, and undoing the previous work of loving our humanity and living in compassion for self and others, isn't going to serve anyone.

There's a balance being struck between the Virgo/Pisces natural polarity (Neptune and Chiron in Pisces; not to mention the past few years'-worthy of work on self nurturing and self-love which Jupiter in Cancer, then Leo, have been teaching us). It is seeing, and loving, the imperfect human-ness of something or someone, and finding the compassion for them/ourselves, which leads to the kind of sacred service, and improvement with love, which is the best of Virgo.

Miss that point, and you may find yourself either escaping from working on something which matters to you(and/or scares you), drowning in cynicism which has its' roots in an underlying feeling/sense of victim-hood or martyrdom, or being so hard on yourself that you're basically being self-abusive, leading full-circle to the avoident escapism which people drown their sorrows in, such as overindulgence in substances and other escapist behaviors.

On the plus side, healthy mixes of the Virgo/Pisces energies could look like having music playing while puttering around on manial tasks, keeping yourself busy yet still putting time aside for a movie or a drink with a friend, working on anything artistic or humanitarian which takes you beyond yourself and lends your hands and heart towards a greater picture etc.

Most importantly, let inspiration and a deep sense of vision inform all you do, and let your efforts be in service to that vision. That is the key to an imperfectly perfect balance.
Happy transits, folks!

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7 ways to ground happily into Taurus season

Taurus seasonIts Taurus season! In many parts of the world, spring has sprung, the flowers are blooming, and it's time to relish in what this season is all about.
And that means Astrologically too!
Here are some ways to make the most of Taurus energy, during this season, and at any other time:

1. Delight your pallet
Take the time to really taste your food, & fill your diet with things that delight as well as nourish.

2. Get back to nature
Go for a walk in a park, go for a hike, or camping, visit some place where you can just sit and enjoy the sunset; really look around to admire this beautiful time of year.

3. Reconnect with music
Turn up some beautiful tunes, and really listen- and maybe even sing along or dance to them.
If you're a musician of any level, dust off that instrument and have a little jam (or even a big one!)- this is both a great time for singing some cherished oldies (Taurus likes the familiar and classic), or even write something new which celebrates where you're at these days (the Jupiter in Leo these days will sure help with creative self-expression!)

4. Get tactile
Wear or wrap yourself in some soft, luxurious fabrics. Take a bubble bath. Get a massage! (or ask your lover for one, and see where it leads?!)
Taurus is a sensualist. During this season, why not let yourself be one too?!

5. Expand on your valuable skills
We all have talents aren't utilizing; something you make or offer, which can become an extra revenue of spending cash, if you just took a few more steps? Taurus knows its' skills are valuable, and that it is deserving of stability and abundance. Whether it's opening up an Etsy account to sell your crafts, or a Facebook page for your talent or skill, or finding a little store to sell things on commission, Taurus would find a way to allow others to value their skills, and let prosperity come out of the transaction.
Not feeling quite ready for that? start small- give your crafts or skills as gifts, and let yourself be appreciated for them. And maybe even ask for a testimonial. 😉

6. Honor traditions
Whether you have family ones, ancestral ones, religious ones, or just a "Friday night drinks with a friend" kinda tradition, lean on what is solid and stable for you, and find security in what you have already established. Taurus likes the established sense of order and purpose, and is well-served by knowing what they can rely on to always be there. You can be served by focusing on that a bit more too.

7. Realize your worth
You're an incredible, valuable human being with so much to offer the world.
How often do you stop and really think about that? can you own your inherent worthiness? That's the first step to having others appreciate you more, too. So start within, meditate on how worthy you are, and then go ahead and allow others to appreciate you more- ask for that raise you know you deserve, request to be taken out by your sweetie etc. Or, just take yourself out, because you're worth it!

Happy transits!

About the Author:
Bella V. Vid has been practicing Astrology since 1999. She specializes in one-on-one counseling, with a clarifying, supportive and empowering tone to all she offers.
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Mars moves into Scorpio- behold the inner momentum!

Mars in Scorpio, image by NurtureAstrology.com- free to share without modification!

Mars moves into Scorpio, and the waiting-game is over. Time to act on what really matters to you. Follow your heart's passion now, and transform or remove all that stands in your way!

Whether you've been following the Astrological current events of the past months or not, most of us have been aware of a sense of underlying frustration to these past 8 months, while Mars, planet of willpower-in-action, was making an unusually long track through Libra, a sign it rarely felt comfortable within.
These past months have been an important, if not always satisfying, period of reflection, weighing options, learning to "play nice" (even/especially under stress), and channel our energy into acting in balance, with tact and consideration. All vitally important to learn...
but not so satisfying if you just... wanna... get... on... with it!

Well, now we can!
On 10:24p.m. last night (EDT),  the symbol of willpower-in-action slipped silently into the sign of Scorpio, and it's full-steam-ahead from hereon-in!
Mars feels right at home in Scorpio, in which it inspires us to stop weighing the options and walking on eggshells, and finally act on our passions, whatever those are, and transform or remove all that's in our way. Continue reading

Chiron’s move into Pisces, and what it means…

Chiron, asteroid in charge of our collective (and individual) wounds and healing, shifted into the sign of Pisces February 9th, 2011. Don’t give me the “who cares?” just yet, you wanna hear this! As a relatively slow-moving little bugger, it’s staying there until April 2018… and that means, it’s gonna be playing/indicating a major part in the events we are about to see coming about in the world. Ahh, got your attention now, haven’t I?! 
All this talk of 2012 (no, the world isn’t ending! Cut it out you melodramatics!) has a lot of us wondering about what’s to come. Myself included (except, ya know, as an astrologer, I have the perks of just looking up the themes and not wondering anymore :-p) Well, here’s one of the key themes, coming to the fore: Chiron’s energy filtered into Pisces allows us (collectively, notwithstanding how it’d act in each individual’s personal chart) to heal ourselves and others via practicing transcendence, deep compassion, and creativity, which expands our awareness beyond the ego’s reach. All this, while navigating around a tendency to play (or become) the victim or martyr, or engage in unhealthy escapism (especially via substance abuse… a bigger no-no then usual these days). Chiron in Pisces can do WONDERS in terms of healing the spirit and reconnecting with the greater whole. Chiron’s transit of Pisces can draw out the compassionate nature of our society and breach many of the divides that apathy and ego have built up. People and societal branches that most rely on such apathy to continue their ways of life, are very likely to get a wake-up call or 10. There is no disconnecting from the greater whole, from the fact that what we do affects others, and Chiron in Pisces is likely to serve up some major reminders of this over the next 7 years. That’s where the possible themes of victim-hood, martyrdom or escapist can come into play and be especially troublesome. Acute sensitivity (shame, guilt, pain) is not something one can hide from, and wearing your own suffering as a cloak only keeps you suffering longer. The keys to our own healing, which Chiron in Pisces tries to make us aware of enough to grasp, is TRANSCENDENCE! As Ghandi said, “The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others”. Whatever you feel you lack, try giving to another… you’ll find that you always have more then you thought you did. Just make extra sure that whatever compassionate service to others is being undertaken, it does not go overboard and turn you into one of the victims as well… as they say, throw a drowning person a rope, but do not jump in where you will also drown. Within these next 7 years, whatever happens, consider adapting this quote as your personal mantra: “I am only one; but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something; I will not refuse to do something I can do.” - Helen Keller There is nothing to fear, only things to understand. About the Author: Bella V. Vid has been practicing Astrology for over 16 years. She specializes in one-on-one counseling, with a clarifying, supportive and empowering tone to all she offers. To book a private reading with her via Skype, please see the contact page above.