With Saturn’s beginning of its’ 5-month retrograde in Sagittarius last Friday (March 25th, 2016 EDT), we are each of us exploring our relationships to boundaries- social, and personal, and how the two marry.
With social-activist unrest going on in the world these days (which I wrote about here), let's start with the social and transition it to the personal (you'll see how it's all connected, I promise) :
There is a concept important to get, of people in recovery from any form of oppression, abuse or pain, needing time of healing, away from the group most-responsible in oppressing them, and wanting safe sacred spaces devoid of that group, available to them for those reasons.
It can be an hour, a day, a month or a year, a one-time experience or a regular setup.
Unfortunately,while this stuff is well-explored in some activist and spiritual circles, so much of society doesn't yet have the language or the conscious concept of this practice, and may not realize right away that this is an important part of what they want to create-
they may experience their unconscious boundaries crossed (even by well-meaning people), feel unsafe and angry, and lash out.
It’s understandable, yet it isn’t fair to the well-meaning individuals going in blindly into territory they do not know is off-limits.
By all means, let us support and create safe spaces wherever they're needed- but there is a way to set it up, and draw those boundaries consciously, in a healthy manner and ahead of time.
That does take time and practice to learn to request, set up and uphold. Yet, without boundaries being consciously spoken/requested/clarified, it isn't always easy to tell when we may be crossing over one.
With Saturn's retrograde though Sagittarius, this is something we as a society need to relearn, individually and collectively; redefine and clarify our boundaries, to give the world a chance to respect them better.
Unfortunately, that same concept can also be distorted in defense of ill-intending (and/or ignorant) perpetrators (claiming what they did was ok because they weren't told "No" clearly enough etc.), so methinks we must also teach/learn to ask for clarity in the boundaries of others, ahead of time, and enter others' space with that manner of respect.
It’s challenging on both ends- for the oppressed party to learn to
A. Explore their ideas of boundaries, and clarify them for themselves. (extra-challenging when boundaries were never considered, explored or respected in their past experiences, as is often the case for various abused/oppressed parties).
B. Develop the self-worth necessary to take a stand that their boundaries are important, and seek to enforce and uphold them.
C. Develop enough trust towards the group most-responsible for the previous offenses, to let one’s boundaries be clearly known, and request that they be respected.
And that’s just the set-up of safe spaces and boundaries, and doesn’t even touch on the healing journey one begins once within this safe space (whether it’s just within the psyche, a physical space, mental space or all of the above).
For the other party- the alleys, those belonging to groups some members of which have done wrong (and, isn’t that all of us too? Unfortunately, there are very few groups of people left, some members of whom have never been the perpetrators of SOME manner of problematic behavior, in some way- Oh, for a world that is otherwise! Let us build a world that is otherwise!!),
the journey holds other challenges- Developing the sensitivity and the practice of asking those we interact with, to clarify their boundaries and inform us of them, so that we may tread upon our path minimizing any harm we may do.
Of course, it is impossible to please everyone, yet there is a difference between seeking to please/appease everyone, and showing respect to the specific person/people we are surrounded by. (Worse-case scenario, is leaving the company of some people, if their boundaries of safety and comfort clash with your own, and seeking new groups of/individual people to connect with, who’s boundaries match yours more naturally).
Pleasing others may in some cases involve crossing our OWN boundaries, and this can be an internalization of harm - and is just stuffing the problem inwards/martyring ourselves for the sake of others. Not a healthy option!
Respecting others, however, is choosing to honor their boundaries while also honoring our own. Not always easy either, but, imo, highly necessary to learn to seek a balance of, especially at this time.
In a world struggling with the concept of boundaries, I hope this Saturn retrograde, and my musings on the subject, help to open up the dialogue.
Happy transits, folks.
For a good chunk of today(March 24th, 2016), the transiting Moon joined forces (conjoined) with Black-Moon-Lilith, the voice of the wounded, angry feminine, in a sign of Libra, well-known for its' connection with the scales of justice.
For fellow Ontario residents, who's eyes are open, we certainly saw those themes activated today. :-/ And I am certain this was by no means only in Ontario!
In so many ways, the world these days is crying out for greater fairness, and a legal system which we can have faith in to point the moral compass true. (Saturn in Sagittarius)
With Chiron (the wounded healer) conjoining Ceres (the feminine nurturance principle) and south node (old outdated attitudes and traditions) in Pisces (deceptive, emotional, victim/martyr archetype) , it's easier than usual to lose the urge to improve things, heal things and change things for the better (North node in Virgo), when it still seems the past has a painful hold on the very things which wounded us to begin with.
And with Pallas (asteroid of feminine warrior power) in Aquarius (social justice archetype) positively working with this Moon/Lilith combo, the natural response to injustice seems to be social activism and ripple-making- which is thoroughly appropriate.
And yet, lest we turn this into ungrounded action, the growth that must occur- that North Node in Virgo asks for- is steady, consistent effort towards improvement and healing, for those who have been wronged and wounded, as well as that which needs to change socially to dismantle corrupt power dynamics (Pluto in Capricorn) and bring real healing to personal and social levels.
It's easier than usual to slide into dejection, depression or victim/martyr states at this state of affairs in the world... and heightened compassion, its' healthier sister, is certainly vitally needed-
and through compassion, we can come back to what may prove to be most important of all: the steady ground-work for change-agency, starting from within, and the willingness to turn outbursts of activist/social outrage, into lasting workings towards change, and healing.
To borrow a rather popular quote these days- "all men(people) must serve". Serve the change we wish to see, that is. Each in our own way. But serve we must. And serve, we shall. Let our frustrations, and our sadness, breed compassion- and let compassion light the way.
Happy transits, folks.
It's not really in direct scandals.It isn't always right there in the open with all its' facts, but there are all these stories coming up lately, of things which give you pause, which make you wonder what's REALLY going on beneath it all.
That is Pluto's way- Pluto's "voice" you're hearing echo. And the Mercury Retrograde we've all trudged our way through (January 5th-25th, 2016), started and ended fused (and is now "in cohoots") with that Pluto in Capricorn I've been talking about since 2008 (when it moved there).
It's kinda like the journalist (Mercury) who went undercover as a crime boss' (Pluto) lackey, and now has the scoop, which it's starting to leak to the presses.
Mercury got our conscious minds in touch with some of that dirt underneath it all... and it's blowing the whistle as much as it can now.
From where I'm sitting, it's like watching a train-wreck, that you know will lead to repair of the whole of the desperately-rusty train-tracks.
Can see it coming, can decipher its' timings and themes, and can't look away for morbid fascination; but also can neither stop it, nor truly wish to- because the change is needed. Oh, so very needed!
The systems are showing their cracks, and being called-out for it more and more.
(Big Pharma, Politics, big oil, Monsanto... I could go on.)
And they're GOING to have to purge their corruption, or crumble (Pluto's slow-building effect, which nothing can escape from).
And, as trust in "the system" (Capricorn) wanes, the grassroots businesses (Cancer, it's polar opposite) and solutions are going to be more and more needed, to step up and support the world. From the heart (Cancer) , with integrity (Capricorn), balancing the two polarities for all our sakes . Everything missing those two key components, will ultimately fall. Will never get past Pluto's slow-building transformational energy.
So what can we do? well, for me, my goal is to work with it, not against it. By tapping into the best of Pluto's healing transformations, and accepting that vital need for a slow purging reform in our systems, my wish is to work with people directly. To "minimize the wreckage", and support the process from the solution side of things.
Through the readings I offer, and through applying all I can offer to myself as well, my aim, is to spread clarity- to minimize the quiet panic in the hearts of those feeling the changes slowly coming- and be there for anyone I can help support, in figuring out and adjusting their own lives, to personally be more in-sync with their hearts, their, truths, their emotional integrity.
As we become part of the solution- are leading our own, conscious, personal transformations and lives- we become paragons. Quiet leaders of a new way of being, living, and organizing reality.
The very grass-roots the world would need, more and more, as we keep on truckin' on.
As we strip away thick layers of social-system rot, we will find the healthier, and most vital parts of society... and of ourselves.
And we will breathe all the better for it.
Happy transits, folks.
So, by now, many of you have seen some reference to the "rare way 5 planets are lining up in the
sky", starting today.
This seems to have caused some confusion, so I'd like to assure you all- this is NOT an Astrological phenomenon. The planets are movin' along, business as usual, in their Astrological journeys, and while some of them are making powerful alignments together, they are not astrologically lined up, single-file, the way they appear to be in the articles circulated about.
Seems like an Astronomical phenomenon, which the media has take up to create a buzz. Sadly, even on a clear sky, this alignment is unlikely to be easily noticeable... though it is undoubtedly cool, in its' own way.
Astrologically, alignments are going on in whole other ways. You may not see them all bright-n-lined
up in the sky, but you WILL feel them, in unique and powerful ways Nurture Astrology is happy to help you clarify and make the most of.
For now, let's use this unrelated phenomenon for its' metaphorical value, and aim to line up with our visions and goals, aligning ourselves to a course which excites and fulfills us.
Happy transits, folks.
With Virgo season increasingly upon us (starting with the Jupiter ingression into Virgo on August 11th, and continuing from there with other players joining the field), my own personal motto right now has been "progress, not perfection".
Why? well, to reap the best that Virgo season has to offer, of course.
As any healthy Virgo-type should be able to tell you,perfection doesn't really exist, and undoing the previous work of loving our humanity and living in compassion for self and others, isn't going to serve anyone.
There's a balance being struck between the Virgo/Pisces natural polarity (Neptune and Chiron in Pisces; not to mention the past few years'-worthy of work on self nurturing and self-love which Jupiter in Cancer, then Leo, have been teaching us). It is seeing, and loving, the imperfect human-ness of something or someone, and finding the compassion for them/ourselves, which leads to the kind of sacred service, and improvement with love, which is the best of Virgo.
Miss that point, and you may find yourself either escaping from working on something which matters to you(and/or scares you), drowning in cynicism which has its' roots in an underlying feeling/sense of victim-hood or martyrdom, or being so hard on yourself that you're basically being self-abusive, leading full-circle to the avoident escapism which people drown their sorrows in, such as overindulgence in substances and other escapist behaviors.
On the plus side, healthy mixes of the Virgo/Pisces energies could look like having music playing while puttering around on manial tasks, keeping yourself busy yet still putting time aside for a movie or a drink with a friend, working on anything artistic or humanitarian which takes you beyond yourself and lends your hands and heart towards a greater picture etc.
Most importantly, let inspiration and a deep sense of vision inform all you do, and let your efforts be in service to that vision. That is the key to an imperfectly perfect balance.
Happy transits, folks!
Its Taurus season! In many parts of the world, spring has sprung, the flowers are blooming, and it's time to relish in what this season is all about.
And that means Astrologically too!
Here are some ways to make the most of Taurus energy, during this season, and at any other time:
1. Delight your pallet
Take the time to really taste your food, & fill your diet with things that delight as well as nourish.
2. Get back to nature
Go for a walk in a park, go for a hike, or camping, visit some place where you can just sit and enjoy the sunset; really look around to admire this beautiful time of year.
3. Reconnect with music
Turn up some beautiful tunes, and really listen- and maybe even sing along or dance to them.
If you're a musician of any level, dust off that instrument and have a little jam (or even a big one!)- this is both a great time for singing some cherished oldies (Taurus likes the familiar and classic), or even write something new which celebrates where you're at these days (the Jupiter in Leo these days will sure help with creative self-expression!)
4. Get tactile
Wear or wrap yourself in some soft, luxurious fabrics. Take a bubble bath. Get a massage! (or ask your lover for one, and see where it leads?!)
Taurus is a sensualist. During this season, why not let yourself be one too?!
5. Expand on your valuable skills
We all have talents aren't utilizing; something you make or offer, which can become an extra revenue of spending cash, if you just took a few more steps? Taurus knows its' skills are valuable, and that it is deserving of stability and abundance. Whether it's opening up an Etsy account to sell your crafts, or a Facebook page for your talent or skill, or finding a little store to sell things on commission, Taurus would find a way to allow others to value their skills, and let prosperity come out of the transaction.
Not feeling quite ready for that? start small- give your crafts or skills as gifts, and let yourself be appreciated for them. And maybe even ask for a testimonial. 😉
6. Honor traditions
Whether you have family ones, ancestral ones, religious ones, or just a "Friday night drinks with a friend" kinda tradition, lean on what is solid and stable for you, and find security in what you have already established. Taurus likes the established sense of order and purpose, and is well-served by knowing what they can rely on to always be there. You can be served by focusing on that a bit more too.
7. Realize your worth
You're an incredible, valuable human being with so much to offer the world.
How often do you stop and really think about that? can you own your inherent worthiness? That's the first step to having others appreciate you more, too. So start within, meditate on how worthy you are, and then go ahead and allow others to appreciate you more- ask for that raise you know you deserve, request to be taken out by your sweetie etc. Or, just take yourself out, because you're worth it!
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Happy Solstice, and a very happy birthday to all you Capricorns!
A new Moon in early Capricorn, at 8:35p.m. EST tonight, brings about a clarified sense of what we are willing to commit and work towards, especially in the realms of creative expression of our beings, from the artistic to the inner-child (and/or literal children) to the romantic.
On the darkest night of the year, sow seeds of light, and tend to them with your commitment and dedication, and you shall have your heart's-work blooming.
Uranus going direct just a few hours ago should make it easier to hear your inner voice and claim your independence, perhaps despite, or through, power struggles and old values which don't fit you as they once did. Holiday-season turmoil notwithstanding, cultivate your inner truth and heart's work, and don't overextend yourself on that which does not nurture you.